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Types of Motivation

March 7, 2019 By Joni Kinney 1 Comment

I believe there are four unique types of motivation. Most people agree there is Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation in place. While that is true, there are internal and external motivators; I actually believe there are 4 motivations that truly drive people.

Motivational Types

  • Self Motivation
  • Pleasing People Motivation
  • Monetary Motivation
  • Rewards Motivated

While the bottom three are types of extrinsic, meaning they are driven by outside forces; the top item is intrinsic. So let’s talk about the bottom three types of motivation here first.

Pleasing People

Many people seek the approval of others. Trying to please people can be toxic to your relationships and hold you back from finding your true self. If you are always seeking the approval of someone else, then you can’t be who you want to be.

If this motivational type describes you here are some tips. Be honest with the people in your life and make sure you are acknowledging your needs. Stop being guilty when you tell people NO to something. It’s not going to dissolve the Earth to put yourself first once in awhile. Make it a priority, here are some self-care ideas for you!

Monetary Motivation

We all know someone who is driven by money and pretty much only money. Now I’m not talking about those who need to make money to survive and have so much debt all they can think about is money. That’s an entirely different problem.

These people will put everything on the side burner if it means they are making more money. While hurting their relationships isn’t something they intend to do, they often don’t realize they have hurt others until the relationship is past salvaging. While there are many types of motivation, I believe this can be one of the most hurtful to those you love.

If you find yourself in this grouping, make a focus to spend time with those you love to be around. Ensure you find ways to tell those around you what they mean to you.

Rewards Motivation

Now you are probably thinking this is the same as money. After all, money motivation and rewards motivated are tied close together. However, they are different.

Those who are driven and motivated by rewards, don’t care what the prize is. It could be a title, wealth, prestige, or even something small like an extra soda or attention from their boss. This type of person tends to make everything in life into some competition even if they are competing against themselves.

If you find yourself in this group, make sure you are not risking your loved ones by turning things into competitions when they shouldn’t be. These people tend to be exhausting to be around, so watch this if you fall into this type of motivation.

Self Motivation

This is one of the hardest types of motivation to conquer and what we all strive for. Self Motivated people don’t care about what others think, money, rewards or any combination.

These people are only motivated by what they think and their own beliefs. These are often some of the most successful people. By having a positive attitude, you often attract positive people to you and this helps you continue to be self-motivated.

Which of these types of motivation do you feel you resonate strongest with?

Filed Under: Mindset Tagged With: motivation, self care, self worth

Self-Reflection: Why do I need it?

June 20, 2018 By Joni Kinney Leave a Comment

It is so easy to come up with a list of reasons we aren’t successful or doing the things we want in life. We have all done this, some do this all the time. We say to ourselves things such as:

  • They or this thing prevented me from being successful
  • If only they would have hired me, helped me or did this thing for me
  • No one cares; I’m all alone, I’m only one person

People are continually trying to find reasons about why their lives are the way they are. We look for others to solve our issues, give us validation and justify why what we have is enough. But… what if the problem isn’t with other people? What if our dilemas are because of our own internal dialogues? We need to find a way to change our internal justification to be about things we control. We need help determining what is truly important to us, and guiding our lives to be fulfilling. To do this we need to know,  understand and realize that we are working for the things that are most important. Take control of your life and your situation by asking yourself, what is my role in my current situation and what could I control that might change the outcome. One way we do this is through Self Reflection.

What is Self Reflection?

Self Reflection is the process of looking deep into yourself to understand your fundamental values. You need to dive into your thoughts, feelings and personal goals to understand your core visions and values. Often we hear these terms thrown around at work or in business settings, but they are equally important in your personal life. Self Reflection is something I’ve come to realize we don’t perform often enough. Not knowing your goals and setting time aside for self reflection can have a negative impact on your mindset.

The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for. - Zig Ziglar

Time Commitment

Self reflection doesn’t need to be big and scary. People are always using the excuse that they don’t have time to do things. Like with most things if you find it important enough you will make the time. With that said, this process does not need to take up a bunch of time, be a burden or seem daunting. The easiest way to start this process is to take 5-10 minutes to write down some daily thoughts. As you let your mind wander, ask a few directed questions your goals and core values should become apparent. If you struggle with this, I’ve created a quick and easy Daily Reflection Journal template for you to use if you need help getting started.

Eliminate the Blame Game

You can only control so many things in your life. Making excuses and blaming others doesn’t get you results. For you to be successful in setting your goals and visions, you need to eliminate the blame game. Stop wasting your time, setting yourself up for failure, and blaming others and external factors on why you can’t be successful, positive, etc. Take the time you need to determine what is important to you.

Determine your sphere of influence

Many things are outside of our control. Stop focusing your energy on those things. It’s draining and makes you mentally and physically tired. Your sphere of influence, those things you directly control are the things you need to focus all your effort. These should be the areas of highest concentration as you look deep into yourself and indeed put your self reflections efforts into. If you look into a goal or a vision and you don’t feel as if you can have any direct control over it or the outcome you want. Then you need to change your sphere of influence, make that one of your goals if you feel that strongly about a particular topic. Seek new opportunities, meet new people or join new organizations so you can be in control again.

Do some self reflection and determine what is really important to you. Something else that may help you achieve your goals and finalize your vision is creating a Vision board. Additionally, grab our FREE ebook Beyond Chaos: A guide to setting goals you can stick to.

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Filed Under: Mindset Tagged With: daily reflection, growth mindset, mindset, self care, time management

30 of my Favorite and Unique Self Care Ideas

March 27, 2018 By Joni Kinney Leave a Comment

We have been moving throughout the last couple of weeks. During this time it has become very obvious to me how very important it is to practice self-care. Often times our mindset is really determined by our emotional state. You can’t be in a good frame of mind if you aren’t taking care of yourself.

I see so many people who struggle daily to deal with the stress live throws at them and I was asked this week by a great friend “How do you keep so calm with so much going on?” Well, I will tell you… I make sure I schedule self-care. So even if I know that life is crazy, hectic, stressful I am guaranteed time to myself to do something I love.

Feel free to share this image on Pinterest for easy reference in the future!

What is self-care?

Self Care is clearly something we often neglect, overlook or just, in general, make excuses not to do. STOP neglecting yourself! You are doing no one any favors! Self Care is essentially scheduled time and attention that you are devoting to taking care of your own well being.

Ideas for Self Care

  1. Bubble Baths!
  2. Reading
  3. Listen to a series of songs
  4. List out 10 things you are grateful for and explain why
  5. Play with your pet or go visit a shelter
  6. Yoga
  7. Watch the clouds or stargaze
  8. Turn off all screens for a set amount of time
  9. Write out 10 positive quotes
  10. Take a NAP
  11. Journal
  12. Stay in your PJ’s and watch your favorite movies all day
  13. Go get your hair and nails done
  14. Get all dressed up just because!
  15. Color
  16. Visit a Museum
  17. Go to the library and participate in an activity
  18. Find a new podcast
  19. Create your bucket list
  20. Go for a relaxing drive
  21. Call someone just to chat
  22. Watch a new TV series on Netflix
  23. Play a new computer game
  24. Try a new flavor coffee or Tea
  25. Schedule a massage
  26. Visit your local coffee shop
  27. Find a new recipe and try it!
  28. Play in the rain
  29. Make funny faces
  30. Buy yourself flowers

There are many other things to consider, but I hope you found this list helpful! Let me know what things you do for self-care by leaving me a message or commenting!

Filed Under: Mindset Tagged With: direct sales, self care

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